Sunday, November 29, 2009

Fun Friday

Friday I went to that Christmas Party. I met some new girls, but no interesting guys. There were two guys who had joined our table and were chatting with me but I kept leaving to circulate and chat with other friends too (which is very much in line with the Rules) and at no time did either of them get up to follow me and attempt to talk to me alone, and neither asked for my number so I just went about my business. I was very proud of my following the Rules, not hanging around them too much, chatting to them when they spoke to me and being friendly, but not going out of my way to chat to them and certainly not offering them my number.

After, some friends and I continued the party at another bar. There again, I must have met 4 or 5 guys, and they chatted with me but none of them asked for my number so I didn't offer it to them. I can see now that offering a guy my number would be fruitless in these situations because if he really wanted to call me, he would ask for my number. If he doesn't, then he's just not that into me. Even when I got a bit drunk, I was telling my friend (who was encouraging me to go talk to these two guys in particular) that I was not going to go talk to them, and if they wanted to talk to me, they could come over here and talk to me!

Although I didn't meet any eligible suitors, I still think it was a successful evening because I had fun, made new friends, and followed the Rules!

On a separate note, the date from last week (the 3/5 one - we'll call him S) had called me earlier this week to try to ask me out for Friday night. Of course I already had plans with this Christmas party so then he asked me for tonight (sunday) and I accepted since I didn't really have anything to do and it was 5 or 6 days in advance. Plus it's only the second date so it's ok that he hasn't freed up his saturdays for me yet. However, after this date, if he cant' free up a saturday for me, he's not going to see me again. In fact, for the next few weeks, I'll only ever be free saturday night (and only if he calls by Wednesday to ask for a saturday date). Every other night, I'm just going to be busy. That's my own rule - I'll accept a weeknight date for the first two dates, but by date #3, if he can't make the effort to take me out on a proper saturday night date, he's done. NEXT! Because that's what the Rules are about after all - having and maintaining your own standards.


Kate said...

Let us knwo how the date goes and if you end up with a Saturday! Good rule.

Kate x